Blind Date - love to the grave

Virtual to virtual is friend. And sometimes something more. The phrase "We met in the network" and no one else does not lead to a rapturous awe. In the worst case, you will look like on the small, at best - answer: "We too". Results 10 - 15 years of virtual dating has undergone a serious evolution. What shines and that threatens today's search for a lover of fish in troubled waters? <
At number advertised mobile phone operator, one can send a message like "I'm Sasha. I like beer "and get in response is also something such.
Technology: Getting on the phone

I vaguely recalled a Soviet song, the lyrical hero who complains that the struggle with loneliness and the prevention of depression, he dialed a number at random, hit a very nice young lady, speak, bye, and a number of recruiting - forgot. Method of depressive lout was adopted in: the very first tool virtual dating has become the phone.

Practicing this method were divided into amateurs and professionals. In real life lovers, two or three telephone dating were merely amusing episode. "Professionals" (mostly young men, pale with glowing eyes) approached the issue thoroughly: they coat phonebook of friends and acquaintances (that was the case with reference to whom) and outlined a list of victims. In the list of designated names, phone numbers, interests, preferences and details of biography of each abonentki - not to be confused by accident.

How it happened: in telephone acquaintances all depends on the charisma or the caller, or from his perseverance. Some "victims" get used to the phone every night "dose" is not worse than watching the next series of "Santa Barbara".

What is the danger: you should not take seriously the phone chatterbox, despite the apparent convergence and commonality of interests. All the more so - to impose on him any hope. For the caller's most important - in the eyes of the listener to create an interesting image. That is why the professionals insist the phone is rarely done at the meetings.
Technology: Getting chatting

Once the Internet became more or less accessible to the masses, started the craze for chat rooms. It now chat - is "phi", a low genre. And once in a chat room could be found very entertaining personalities. Moreover, chats over time it became possible to knock together tusovka on issues of interest to you, preferably not too exotic.

How it happened: choose chat, preferably pomnogolyudnee, register your own nickname - and included in a meaningful conversation. Could retire with a nonprofit for virtual private conversation. Meetings could take place, of course, and one on one, but often practiced monthly or weekly gatherings "to all the farm" - it is there and there began the vast majority of "chatovskih" novels, sometimes even finish it marriage, sometimes even happy.

What is the danger: if you now want to revive the good old tradition, then be prepared for that now sit in chat rooms underage beer drinkers and domestics gatherings. All more or less interesting crowd reached a new virtual place - LJ (LiveJournal). Last of the Mohicans, maintained a tradition of visitors are subject portals such Stihi.ru that meet once a week to show their creativity and to scold someone else's.
Technology: An Exploration of the Living Zh

Now have your account on the blog, but simply put, keep a blog network - decencies. Also, as from time to time "devirtualizatsiyu", meeting with their own readers.

How it works: First you need to get a particular journal, and anything they write: "I spent the summer" or "why I hate Nazis. Then you need to subscribe to those magazines that you intend to read and comment. And then - keep track of their own readers and commentators. The beauty of blogging is that the author himself asks the subject, he is looking for his interlocutors on the interest and organizes community itself - are what he likes.

What is the danger: from a deep immersion in LJ can be greatly languish and forget the text and its author - is, as they say in Odessa, two big differences. I feel great disappointment in person.
Technology: sms-dating

Sms-dating - a reincarnation of the chat, after they finally went out of fashion, and the population en masse got mobile phones. Despite the fact that the principle of anonymous interlocutor preserved in sms-acquaintances, roughly calculate the sex, age and level of intelligence participants of the event is simple. Age: 12 -18 years, intelligence level vocational schools, and inversely proportional to age: the older the participant sms-chat, the worse he must have the brains. How else to explain the predilection for the exchange of meaningless letters? Sex sms-talking, of course, difficult to calculate, but the available information about the age and level of intelligence is no longer so important.

How it works: on the number advertised mobile phone operator, one can send a message like "I'm Sasha. I like beer "and get in response is also something such. And please you dig who is who, and the cellular operator - joy. Because each message - paid.

What is the danger: first, that this type of communication is absolutely impossible to get carried away. But if this does happen, to monitor closely the status of your account on the phone and state their level of intelligence. A romantic connections probably will not happen.

How to become happy

Each of us dreams of a simple woman's happiness, but it somehow never comes. Waiting for him, waiting, and as there was no happiness and no. We begin to blame all around: parents who are not allowed to marry your first love, her husband, who earns little money, children who are constantly shalyat. But do not understand that the problem lies deep within ourselves. Remember, when the last time you enjoyed a warm sunny day, birds singing, or a sincere smile greeted the dawn? We stopped to enjoy life, do good to others without asking anything in return, help the needy.

Happiness - is not a prize which can be obtained for certain services. Happiness - a state of mind, and only depends on you, how it will be. Consider a simple example. Marine boyfriend presented a bouquet of field daisies, and Natasha nice expensive car. The first girl, in the literal sense of the word was in seventh heaven, while the second remained dissatisfied because dreaming of a luxury apartment. For some, happiness - all this attention and love of people close to someone - money or universal acceptance. Everyone wants to be happy, and everyone has that right. In fact, to become happy is very simple. Only you do not want to believe it. We are so accustomed to suffer, at heart, even themselves without realizing it, do not want to let this state. Our problem is that we love, so we were sorry, or feel sorry for themselves. So much easier. It is easier to turn than to file a helping hand. We turn our backs on each other, rose the gray and sparing little world, "hands over his ears, so as not to hear about the suffering of others. After all, in order to be happy, to live in harmony with itself. A man who does not touch the problems of another, is unlikely to calm the soul.

Would you be happy? Recipe for happiness is simple. One need only take off the mask and be myself. Do good, not asking for anything in return. Most say their loved ones, as they'll road. Enjoy each new day. Determine for yourself what you can make happy: family, money or general acceptance, and boldly go to the goal, smiling all the others. And be, confident, happy smile at you too.

Learning to argue in an intelligent

It is not necessary to arrange the proceedings, as they say in hot pursuit. If you are upset and angry, then before you begin a serious discussion or clarification of relations, come to the normal calm state. Psychologists recommend to remove negative emotions, that is, to produce steam. Ask how to do this? Modalities are many: punched his fist on the pillow, tear to shreds the paper or mentally, imagine that the offender is before you, and you express to him all that think of him. Also effective way: to present themselves in the field or in the mountains and poorat heartily. The main thing - do not be shy and do not stop halfway.

Try to choose the time and place suitable for such conversations. Of course, there are times when a wave of emotion covers with his head, and we are no longer able to resist it .. However, it is best to make every effort to quarrel, and under favorable conditions. Do not begin a serious discussion, if anyone of you feel bad or somewhere hurry.

Do not swallow the insult, boldly share your complaints and grievances. Try talking first-person. Phrases uttered by a first-person, doing miracles, because you talk about their feelings, and quite unimportant, they are negative or positive. No need to "poke" to his companion. This may seem to him as an attack or accusation of anything. And as you know, for men it acts as a red rag to a bull. In response to you or also attacked, or will be quietly excuses. In short, the desired dialogue will not work.

Do not go to the person that you only add fuel to the fire and get away from your problems, solutions for you at this moment together.

Be honest, upload your feelings to the other party just as they are. For example, if you have something to piss out yourself, then you should not say something like: "I was not very pleasant." False words, you will feel both at once.

Try not to generalize, to avoid statements like "you never", "you always", "you're not", etc. Such phrases only infuriate your dear friend.

Move away from conflict - is a slow but sure way to destroy even the strongest relationships. If you're always going to pretend that you all - well, that nothing has happened that you are all fine and well, despite the fact that the brawl at odds - you will notice that very soon, your meetings will become a rarity, the calls will stop and eventually end relationship.